Sweetness

Ok, now that we got that unpleasantness out of the way, I can tell you a little more about what’s been going on with my Fireman!  First off, like Teeni said, he is very different from the other men I’ve known and written about.  That isn’t to say that he doesn’t have some of the same qualities (humor, etc), but there is another dimension to this man that I haven’t seen before.  Foremost, he is a gentleman.  He opens doors for me, he chats with my parents when he sees them, he is charming and sincere.  He takes care of those he loves, be it his son, me, or his family and friends.  He has the same values I do, especially in terms of family and what he wants for his child(ren).  He has accomplished so much already, and still has goals he wants to attain.  He is always respectful and kind.  How many times have I said that I want a man who is kind?  The whole situation with WT showed me just how wonderful my Fireman is.  He was there for me through it all, not judging, being objective and just being there for me.  How many guys would have done that?  Only one I can think of.

I’m not sure if I told y’all how we met, and right now I’m too lazy to go back and check, so I’ll tell you.  I actually “met” my Fireman waaaaaaaaaaay back in the fall of 2007.  I had posted a MySpace page (under Honey’s suggestion) that was ment to attract some men to go out with.  It worked, and I had a flurry of activity pretty quickly.  My Fireman was one of the men that it attracted.  He was at about the same point in his separation as I was (though he was never married, they had been together for a long time), and we messaged back and forth for a while.  He did ask me out then, but I knew that his ex was still pretty involved in his life, and that intimidated me, so we didn’t ever get together, though we continued to message every once in a while (I still have some of the messages in my inbox).  When I started going out with The Crazy One, I deleted the “Ginger” page and invited a few people to my “real” page.  The Fireman was one of them.  We talked off and on, he dated other people, and I was with TCO for WAY too long.  One day, TCO got onto my page and deleted all of the men off of it, and I never knew my Fireman’s last name, so I figured that was it.

Cut to after the break up with LS, and I was ready to mingle again.  It was Christmas time and I was looking for an address that I knew was in my inbox from the previous Christmas (I somehow forgot to write it in my address book), so I was going through a ton of old messages.  I saw some from the Fireman, and re-read them.  Then I noticed that his default picture was of a wedding and thought, “OH NO!  He got married?!?!”  I clicked on it to check it out, but realized that, no, he didn’t get married (WHEW), it was pictures from a friend’s wedding.  I sent him an add request and waited, all the while I was talking to other folks, WT in particular.  It took a while for him to respond, but he did.  He told me he was just about to delete his account when he saw my message, and told me he was dating someone (wah, wah), but we caught up and it was nice.  I told him about TCO and LS, and how I was just getting back out there.  He added me on Facebook, and we made comments every once in a while, but since he was dating someone, I kind of kept my distance.

Cut to a few weeks later, and I’m at Starbucks writing that damn paper during a power outage.  Who should be there but my Fireman, breaking up with his girlfriend.  I didn’t notice him, of course, because I’m clueless like that sometimes.  He messaged me the next day and said he saw me and knew who I was right away, even though we’d never met in person, but since he was with another girl, didn’t think it would be right to come over and say hi.  He asked me if I would like to go out sometime.  I had just started seeing WT, and didn’t feel right about doing that, so I told him that.  He gave me his number and I gave him mine, though, and told him maybe we could go out to lunch as friends sometime.  When WT started all the back and forth crap and told me I should see other people, my Fireman was first on the list.  I actually texted him on Valentine’s Day, on the way back from my lunch with WT, asking him to go to lunch, and you pretty much know the story from there.

I feel that our paths crossed over and over for a reason.  I mean, how often do things like that happen?  I don’t think it was just a coincidence that he saw me that night.  I also feel that if we had dated way back when we first met, it might not have worked out.  We weren’t ready yet.  If I hadn’t known so many “wrong” men, I wouldn’t have appreciated the right one so much.  He is the man I was looking for without knowing it.  I hope that makes sense to you, because it is very clear to me.

As far as intuition goes, mine is telling me a lot of things right now.  I know I’ve explained this before, but sometimes I just “know” things.  One night I looked at him and just knew I was gonna marry him, and I told him that.  Did he freak out?  Nope, he said that he knew the same thing.  Not tomorrow, not next month, maybe not even next year, but someday, and this time…this time, it will be the way marriage is supposed to be, for both of us.

5 Responses to “Sweetness”


  1. 1 Ron March 25, 2009 at 11:36 am

    Congrat, I hope both of your “knowings” turn out just as you two hope.

  2. 2 Evil Twin's Wife March 25, 2009 at 1:15 pm

    I’m glad that you are at a content and happy place in your life right now. Yay!

  3. 3 Lola March 25, 2009 at 10:34 pm

    Hey, firemen are usually pretty great guys, in my experience. Glad you’re happy!

  4. 4 gingermagnolia March 26, 2009 at 5:19 pm

    Ron – Thanks, dude.

    ETW – I am, too! Thank you! 😀

    Lola – I don’t know if it’s that he’s a fireman, but he is a very great guy!

  5. 5 teeni March 29, 2009 at 2:59 am

    How very awesome! 🙂


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